an update

Thu 23rd, Jan, 2014

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Well I’m up and down.  I’m guessing that’s better than just down, right?

But we’ve still been laughing in this little family, mostly about my cleaning and dousing of the house with essential oils, very strange but true, when one woman needs to cope with life and what it throws at her she gets out the cleaning cloths and starts Dettoling the entire house (I invented this word, it’s not quite made it into the Oxford yet but it involves going around on one’s hands and knees with Dettol and anointing one’s house with it) …if you want an expert in how to disinfect your skirting boards or how to cleanse your home with aromatherapy oils, well I’m right here for you…there was a point when my lovely husband asked me, in the early hours of the morning, if I would please step away from the spray cleaner…

Life goes on here, all joking aside thank God it does and I’m grateful for that.

I’ve had a lot of lovely, sincere, heartfelt and interesting advice on how to cope with what’s going on….the best advice I have had is that there are no rules if I want to disinfect behind the tv that’s fine…if I want to joke that’s fine too….fancy a bit of blogging, go for it…


…other good advice has been to not ask why, this has been great for me and I’m not now asking why, I’m past that now, so hoping that’s a good thing… the first few days I did this all the time, why our family, why us, why, why, why, it’s sooooo not fair, why do I have to go through this, why me cos I can’t do it…

When I’m not Dettoling I’ve actually had a lot of time to think, I’m still not sure what the positives are to come from this – seeing a child go through this is not my idea of positivity in any shape or form, but I must say I have had hundreds of messages many from people who have been through things and come out the other side of something they never thought they would and I am taking comfort in their words…

We are having a brighter day though, I’m very up and down, I guess that’s to be expected….

We do now just have to wait…

I’m here with my Dettol, if truth be known I’ve been bathing in it.




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117 Responses to “an update”

  1. Ros says:

    hang in there – you sound like you are getting good sage advice. And you dettol any and all parts of just about anything you fancy. Thinking of you a lot.

  2. Sam says:

    Sarah, I think that’s the thing about mothering…… You have no idea how strong you are until life throws a sick child at you……. And then, although it is the most unbearable and painful experience, you make your way and look back and wonder how you ever got through it! You are a strong woman…..with an exceptionally clean house!! Xx Sam xx

  3. Honeyaar says:


    It’s ok to do what you, when you do.
    It is what it is. Life does go on, as it must.
    No one should ever suffer the sheer terror of the worst involving their children or
    Any of their loved ones. This especially difficult when your unit of 5 is so very tight…when you 5 have been everything to, and for, one another. Each individual is equally, essential, perfect,unique element of the whole. Your extended family and others are abroad…
    It is up and it is down, a roller coaster of fear, distress, anxiety and then some calm and sense of coping. This is grief…and it’s a process.
    Keep doing what you do…it keeps you grounded in its mundane nature.
    Godbless and respect and own the process. You are ok.xxx

  4. Nanci says:

    Sarah , so happy to hear there has been some laughter ! You are so right there is no right or wrong during this time you have to do what is best for you and whether it be dettoling ( love the word) , laughing, crying or doing all three it’s alright .. Thank you so very much for keeping us updated . Keeping you and yours in my prayers sending good positive thoughts and big hugs your way ..

  5. Jodie aka Mummaducka says:

    Ride the waves! There are peaks and troughs! But just keep riding them!!Xxx

  6. Sharyn says:

    Just hugs – again. xxx

  7. Neen says:

    So lovely to hear you are doing what makes sense in your world !!! It’s funny how we clean when we are stressed…..even our plants on the verandah got a dust/wipe down !! Have you washed Barls yet ????
    Keep going, stick together and you will weather this storm or CLEAN it away !! Heartfelt thoughts and blogging Luuuuuuurve from Neen ;)

  8. Emma says:

    You know I reckon there might be something in the dettoling. As kids we always had to soak any injury in detox to ‘make it all better’. Maybe it’s the way a part of you brain is trying to find a way to soothe you and your family. An old touchstone if you like. Repetitive work like cleaning also helps with a busy head and heart, there is comfort in that repetition and mindlessness. And in my book black humour always helps … Laughing is always better than any alternative. Strength and hope to you. X

    • sarah says:

      oh yes it is definitely helping me soothe…just the smell of it when I open the bottle :-) xxx thanks

  9. Shirley says:

    I’ve been thinking about you a lot in the past few days. Your blog is on my list of ones that I check daily, and reading about your poor kiddo breaks my heart. You’re such a good Mom for being so strong- keep doing whatever you need to do to stay sane. Thank goodness you’re by the sea. The ocean is good for the soul.
    Sending big hugs and lots of love on the waves for you.

  10. Mary says:

    Good to hear you are up and about cleaning, a great way to work through the stress of it all. Wishing the beach cottage crew many more happy moments of laughter. X

  11. Min says:

    Hi Sarah, I read this post and didn’t know what you were talking about, so went back and read some previous ones. My heart was in my mouth. I’m so sorry this has happened to your family. Every parent dreads anything ever happening to their precious children. I can only imagine the fear and emotions you have been through. I see that there was surgery but that your kiddo is ok. Thank goodness! You would have been shaken to the core – the little safety net around your family violated. It will take some time to heal from this experience and you have the right to do so in any way you need to. Min xo

  12. katrina says:

    Thinking of you Sarah. Xx

  13. Jen says:

    …other good advice has been to not ask why, this has been great for me and I’m not now asking why, I’m past that now, so hoping that’s a good thing… the first few days I did this all the time, why our family, why us, why, why, why, it’s sooooo not fair, why do I have to go through this, why me cos I can’t do it…

    This resonated with me. My daughter has had a brain condtion since birth and is having a rough time at the moment asking ‘why do I have this?’, why doesn’t my sister (twin)?’, ‘It’s not fair’. I have no answers for her but asking why gets her nowhere. Gets me nowhere, just adds to my frustrations. And gets you nowhere. I hope your child is doing ok and you guys continue to heal. :) xx

  14. Mellie says:

    Hi Sarah,
    Just a quick note to say I’m thinking of you and your family quite often. Glad to hear that your coping strategy makes the house clean at the same time.You seem to be good at appreciating the good stuff, so I guess that’s a good thing to do xx

  15. Nadine says:

    I think we should always allow our children,our precious other half, and yes, ourselves one big mistake in life. Unfortunately, for some of us we seem to have an intense desire to beat that mistake, so our loved ones lurch from one to the other, fingers crossed at what may happen next with the phrase “Well, that wasn’t so bad after all” ready to be said each time. We can only hope that not only does the person who made the mistake learn from it, but that others around them also learn, so that we are not revisiting that same mistake over and over again. Of course, allowing the mistake becomes a problem when another is injured or worse. I have a friend in his late 60s who never drove again after his brother died in the car my friend was driving. At that time, my friend was 21. Yes, my friend lost his licence for life, but I think we all are aware how little that means to most people. Owning up to ones mistakes can and should be a time of healing too. Remember the 7 stages of grief and remember that everyone takes a different time to get to each stage.

  16. Kelly says:

    As others have said, there is no right or wrong way to cope. It’s ok to laugh one minute and bawl your eyes out the next. My sister and I even cracked inappropriate jokes in the days following her husbands passing in between thinking. ‘This can’t be real, this sort of thing happens to other people’. It’s good that your house is getting a good clean though :) and I love that barls has been such a comfort to your family. It’s amazing how our pets can get us to focus on the now. And he is such a cute nurse. Continuing to send loving energy to you and your family. Xxx

  17. Debs Sutton says:

    It’s weird isn’t it this thing called Life? We’re all experts on it but all “beat to the sound of our own drum” and so we should. It’s the mundane,normal things that we cling to too make sense of the chaos that sometimes invades our lives. Do whatever you need to do……when my brother died very suddenly I baked&baked&baked as if MY life depended on it!!?? Love,luck and more laughter to you all.xxxx

  18. Rukmini Roy says:

    Oh, Dettol’s been my friend too at some point of time but what mattered was we were making jokes about it! That’s what matters in life Sarah and that’s what gives us the strength.

    Happy to hear that you are smiling :)

  19. Deb says:

    One step at a time my dear xxx

  20. merilyn says:

    dearest sarah, thinking of you even, [especially when I went to the second hand shops today]
    with significant other at mitre 10 for a while … stuffed those buys into the over sized bag and when I got back in the car he said, the bag isn’t bulging, not much today? NO not today dear! thought you’d like a giggle! lol m:)X

  21. I so get the cleaning thing. Clean, clean, clean. Thinking time and zoning in or out time. I always clean when I’m feeling stressed or upset. Laughing is medicine too, isn’t it? So fantastic that you can still laugh. Stay strong, Sarah xox

  22. Anonymous says:

    I hold my Dettol bottle high and salute you. Thanks for your update.

  23. Lisa Mckenzie says:

    I think you do whatever you have to do to get through Sarah and if cleaning helps you through then do it,sending positive healing vibes your way hon and lots of hugs xo Lisa

  24. It makes me happy to hear you guys are having a brighter day…and obviously a cleaner one too!?! Xxx to you all :)

  25. Denise says:

    I have recently started reading your blog – got completely hooked on your Christmas posts – and am so sorry to hear what a tough time you are having. My thoughts are with you and your family.
    Denise xxx

  26. Chris Higgins says:

    Oct.2011 we picked up our 8 yr.old grandchild from school as per normal, a day before her birthday, but she felt ill, on getting her home and within 10 mins, unbeknown to us had an AVM brain haemorrhage/stroke. She survived many a trauma just to get her to the Childrens Hospital in Sydney. We minded the other two siblings, not knowing the outcome in 2 months. Last Oct. she turned 10 with a big party of all her school friends, and this year will attend grade 5 full time.
    Prayers from teachers, school mums, preschool teachers, and friends and strangers came our way, and so many offers of help. I also cleaned, gardened, kept happy for the other two girls. When we were told her operation to remove the bleeding was successful and all would be well, I cried for two hours out of relief.
    Hang in there Sarah, I am with you and my prayers, do try to rest,,believe me I know.

    Chris at Coffs Harbour. xx

  27. Siggie says:

    Sending continued prayers for you and your family dear Sarah. Keep strong and keep smiling and telling jokes when you feel it. This thing called life is a strange mysterious thing indeed, all we can do is go through it one moment at a time and do the best we are able to in that moment.

  28. Ali Gibbs says:

    What can I say…it’s all been said
    Hang in there & take care of yourself as well.

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  30. Claire says:

    It’s good that there ups coming between the downs Sarah ~ eventually there will be more and more ups and fewer downs ~ time heals at least in part : ) I think Dettoling must be a British word as we’ve always said it in my family! Sending you all lots of hugs x

  31. Emma Tandy says:

    I’m with you with the Dettoling, I’ve not been out of my PJ’s or Joggers this week and when I’ve done the school run I sure people are standing back because I smell of it lol , I find a good old clean sort’s many thing’s out, on the plus side nothing like a clean house you never know who’s going to look behind the TV or around the door frames. Life’s here to test us and test us it does. Thinking of you and your family keep laughing it’s the best medicine for sure. xxx

  32. Jan Withers says:

    Hi Sarah, Have been thinking about you a lot and it was great to read your blog tonight. We have our granddaughter staying with us during the school holidays and have been enjoying every minute with her. Children are so important. Will say a prayer for you tonight. xx

  33. I am sorry to hear about the hard times you are having to deal with, on the other hand! My husband says im addicted to bleach…. I bleach everything and keep buying bleach, I got like 20 bottles of bleach in my cupboard :) nothing wrong with CLEAN :)

  34. Lisa Rowan says:

    Hi Sarah,

    There is a storm for every season and this one for you seems massive.
    Sending you warmest thoughts and strength.
    There are times when faced with such atrocity we ask ourselves “how will I get through this”, but somehow with the innate nature of strong human beings we do.

    I hope your storm passes soon… Adjust the sails when needed.

    hugs xx


  35. Diana says:

    First, Sarah, I was saddened to hear your news!…I once heard that when you have children, it is like wearing your heart outside your body…. you realize that pretty soon when there are trials with the kids… I am so sorry that you are having to go through this… it is hard not to ask why and only natural… but I have come to the point in my life to where I know I will ask why, but then again, why not me or my family..because I work in the medical field and know that there are sorrows,miracles, and joys and heartaches that happen all the time. I always say a little prayer for each story I come in contact with… I know you will get through this with the strong support system you have… just let yourself BE…be honest, be whatever emotion needs to take center stage at that time and know you are loved… I wish you peace in this time and pray for continued improvement, continued moments of joy, and that your strength and love will carry you through…. God Bless!

  36. joyce tx says:

    Hey! Cleaning is a GOOD thing… just remember to air out the rooms before you’re overcome with the fumes. [haha] DO whatever you need to do to keep you in balance. Bringing order can soothe the mind- plus you have a positive result! Happy to hear balance is coming back to you life…laughing is always good! Blessed be.

  37. Rose D. Frenchtown, NJ USA says:

    You clean until your heart is content! We are all here praying for you and your family.

  38. Dianne says:

    I am sending healing prayers to you and your family.

  39. Samantha says:

    Tears may last for a night time, but joy comes in the morning…sometimes, its a long night….but joy is coming :) praying for you still. Hugs. xo

  40. Karen says:

    So happy to hear you are still hanging in there, i call it skulling… as in your aren’t swimming and you aren’t quite drowning.
    My only words of advice are to remember to take time for yourself. A friend once said to think of your self as a bucket, if that bucket is empty then you can not give anything out. You need to remember to fill you bucket every so often so that you can continue to give. Do not feel bad in taking time for yourself, the more you look after your self, the better you are able to look after others. Keep safe.

  41. Sarah says:

    Dear Sarah: Just checking in with your blog and I’m so sorry for your child – hugs and prayers to you and your family for a quick recovery. Please keep us posted and know that all this positive energy from around the world definitely helps! xoxo

  42. Claire says:

    Nothing more to add to the words of others other than to send you a big virtual hug. We all find our ways of coping with the bad times. There’s no right or wrong way, just whatever works for you at the time.
    We’re all here for a virtual pick you up when you feel the need.
    Take care of yourself & the family ((((HUGS))))

  43. Marlene says:

    Hi Sarah,

    I’ve been an admirer of your beautifully portrayed website for a long time now. I’ve never emailed you or left comments, although I have meant to many times, as I have really enjoyed your stories, designs, photos etc…I think you do a wonderful job and you should be acknowledged for that! 

    Now I would really feel remiss if I did not now communicate to you under the circumstances, because you deserve as many friends, care and good wishes as possible, at this time! I think it’s hard when one gets too many “opinions” on how to handle any personal situation in one’s life. So I simply want to say GOOD JOB on handling this in a manner which seems right to you. If cleaning, laughing, going to the beach for walks, gardening or continuing to blog at your website helps you, then great! And I will also say I completely agree with NOT asking “Why”, as it suits no purpose and actually can make things worse.

    So the only friendly advice I will give is for you to continue to do those things that keep you feeling your happiest and most positive, as this will allow you to be the best influence possible for your child and your family unit. Again, it’s your life and only you know what’s best for you.

    Wishing you and your family the most positive wishes and a speedy recovery,

  44. molly says:

    Sarah, my healing thoughts are with you & your family. I’m sitting in the sunshine & wishing you light & peace halfway across the world. You have given me so much & now I’m sending you all that positive energy back. You are such a good mum as I have read your love for your kids in your posts over the years. Keep taking care of you too…

  45. jody says:

    Sweet and Dear Sarah,
    it is so good to hear from you and to know there is the sound of laughter in your home! i think i understand the need and desire to detoll (sp?)your house too, and i know you are soothed by the scent of cleanliness.
    how i respect your ability to open up and share with us, to take the time is pretty amazing and i am glad there have been words of encouragement for you.
    i think you are being doubly blessed by the changes you made in your home the last few years. the fluffing to make it so comfortable, the brightening with whites and cooling pastels, the healthy foods you incorporate into the family’s diet, the sunshine let into your home and spirit, all this is adding to the healing of both the body and soul of your dear family at this time. here it was a bit of pure joy to take care of the tatty little cottage and look at the benefits it has weighed out to be. God’s spirit prompts and works in ways we don’t even realize.
    it is strange how a relationship develops through a blog, how i enjoyed reading your posts in the past, how i felt a kin to you though so far away, and now, that my heart feels and cares even more, how falling in love with a blog led to loving a family you have never met! may you be blessed by the readers who care for you and are cheering you on.
    we do care for your child that has suffered, for you and for the rest of your family. some of us have witnessed and know the body can and does heal even from great trauma. so we continue to lift you up, praying mightily for your dear one and praying that your hands and heart continue to be blessed with healing for your child. xo jody in fl

    • sarah says:

      what a beautiful message! thank you I do actually feel very blessed here and I am glad i posted when I actually wondered if I would ever open a computer again, I think it’s interesting that the internet seems like a big old place where we all do our think but underneath it’s people and relationships and friendships, just a new way of forming them. x

  46. Daisy says:

    Dear Sarah,
    A few years ago I wrote a feature about your decorating tips and we both marvelled at how amazing the internet was that someone in Ireland could be inspired to decorate their house by someone on the other side of the world! I was so sad to hear about your kiddo, and am still inspired by you now- by your strength and humour and ability to keep going- here’s hoping and praying for good news for you all x

  47. andrea frost says:

    Hi Sarah….

    just checking in on you…

    glad there is some progress…
    always here for a “cyber chat” if needed…

    xx andrea & sooty says “hi” to barls for doing a great therapeutic job..

    xxx andrea

  48. Lark says:

    Sarah, i just happened to check in on your blog and found out the news about your son. I am so sorry. I am thinking of you and your family and praying for a full and speedy recovery. My family is in the midst of a major crisis right now, so I was shocked when I checked in to see how you are doing after an absence on my part. Sending good thoughts across the Pacific to you… Lark

  49. I am continuing to send healing wishes your way Sarah. Do whatever feels right to you as you go through this, none of us have the answers but can only send our support and love.

  50. Kerrie says:

    Sending love across the sea xxo

  51. Diana says:

    Ohh so sorry. Take a deep breath (fresh ocean air) and breathe again and again and again.
    Hugs to You and Yours

  52. Hang in there…God doesn’t give us what we can’t handle. I think finding your own way to cope is exactly what you should be doing right now:-)

    Take care and wishing for the best outcome for your family.


  53. Jenny says:

    Still thinking of you and your family daily Sarah. My greatest fear is having something dreadful happen to my son, so my stomach has been in knots for you! I hope you continue to feel an army of supporting arms from all over the globe, supporting you and upholding you all in this tough time. XX

  54. Beck says:

    Hi Sarah. just sending my prayers and support to you and your family. I have followed your blog for a very long time and often turn to you and your beautiful beach cottage if I was ever feeling stressed or down as you and your blog and pics lifted my spirits and made me feel calm and inspired. just wanted to say thankyou for this and hopefully the words and support from all your Beach cottage followers are of some comfort and help lift your spirits even just a little, as you have done for many of us. take care.

  55. My thoughts and prayers are with you all at this time. I’m not sure what the accident was or any details but I AM praying for all the best. Sweet sweet Sarah you have helped me heal through so many circumstances in my life with your wonderful blog! I wish for you now wonderful things!

  56. I feel more energy in this post and I really hope everything will be better in a while. Bergamot essential oil is supposed to help with the mood… Maybe you could add some next time you clean something… like in a minute!

  57. Leonie -Australia says:

    I clean when under stress too, I think it gives you a feeling of having control over something, putting things in order and being able to do something when other things are way out of your control. Funny but it helps, so go for it if nothing else your home will feel better!

  58. Kylie says:

    You’re talking to the sanitisation freak post our (unfortunately) regular hospitalisations. Cutan, Dettol, disinfectant is our friend & comfort. It’s all part of the healing & moving on. When you are discharged from an ICU bubble it’s on for young & old & anyone who crosses the threshold at ours. I’ve slackened off now thanks to a healthy summer. Am thinking of you & your family. I can honestly say I know how it feels…but you do get through it with reserves of strength & love you probably don’t know you possess. And it takes something hard to happen to show you the power & fierceness you possess. I mean it Sarah – you don’t know me from Eve, but you’re not alone – if you need an ear just email me. kyliedelgado@mac.com

  59. Susan says:

    All sorts of things happen when I don’t check in here daily. Prayers for your family and quick, TOTAL healing…for all of you. And don’t forget to use that lovely bathroom and your lavender oil and wine. And candles.

    When we lost our youngest son, I spent a lot of time cleaning…usually in the middle of the night. I vividly recall lying on the kitchen floor, leveling the refrigerator. After I had pulled it out to see if I could figure out why the icemaker wasn’t working, unkinking the lines, etc. And cleaning while I was back there also, getting all the stuff out. And scrubbing that floor, trying to figure out what the dishwasher’s problem was, cleaning up the walls….the only thing I didn’t do was use the vacuum and wake up the other 4 members of the household.

    Much love and prayers to you. Remember the ocean and beach…from cold Colorado.


  60. kathny says:

    I’m so sorry to hear about your child’s accident. I know your heart is heavy right now, but try to focus on the positive things – your child is alive, and there will be some degree of physical healing. I don’t know the nature or the extent of the injuries, but where there’s life, there’s hope. I’m sure you’ve read a lot of comments from people who have experienced similar tragedies with the worst outcome. When things get tough, just keep repeating, where there’s life, there’s hope. I’ll keep you and your family in my prayers for peace and healing. Just remember to take a few minutes each day for yourself. your family needs you now more than ever, so you need to stay healthy.

  61. Tricia Rose says:

    Splash in Dettol if it helps – just remember not to drink it! Be kind to yourself too xx

  62. Pat says:

    I just found your blog via Scribbler and wanted to drop a note to you. My almost 16 yr old gorgeous granddaughter was fatally injured in a freak auto accident last June. I can tell you that I don’t even remember what happened July-Sept. Once we got through the holidays I’ve been better. A good friend that lost his daughter advised me not to question “Why?” ~ I initially did. It was not good that I did that. I hope that you will do whatever to comfort yourself. Cleaning is a great release! Please be gentle with yourself…you can’t care for others if you’re not strong enough.

    I am sending positive, healing energy for you and your family. Each of you will be in my prayers!


  63. Mrs Woog says:

    Thinking of you all. I get the Dettol thing x

  64. Andie says:

    I am visiting at the behest of Scribbler. Please know that you and your family are in our prayers.



  65. Gretchen Schaumann says:

    Oh Sarah, it’s so good to hear that some laughter has tricked back into the Beach Cottage once again. Injuries and illness are so difficult and the seriousness they tend to execute can be the cause of even more stress. Laughter is so good for the SoUl, and can help bring a sense of safety and the start of some emotional heeling from the trauma your family has recently experienced. Here’s to more healing coming your families way, and for joy to return as well.
    Prayers will continue from MN…
    As for EO, just wondering if you’ve ever heard of or used Young Living therapeutic grade oils? They’ve been amazing for me personally and are excellent for ones emotions and physical healing too. Might be worth checking into if anyone in Australia has them. I’ve really been encouraged to venture more into EO through your blog and posts that you would share in booking with herbs and beauty with EO. Now, I am sold on both the herbs, oils and spices. Love you Sarah and your blog. You’ve been a huge blessing in my life over the years.
    Peace to you and your family.

    • sarah says:

      so kind Gretchen, yes I have heard of Young living, it’s very expensive here though, well at least for me….my oils have seriously seriously helped us through this time, if anything else the house has smelt amazing lol! xx

  66. Good morning Sarah…I dropped by this morning and am so glad I did.
    May I let you know that I am holding you right now before Him in thankfulness that your dear child has come through this accident. Struggling with the hurts of our children can overwhelm and consume us. I too,for the last couple of years, under different circumstances have felt the heaviness of grief and heartache of my child’s brokenness and pain. Its been the hardest thing in my life…when one of us hurts, we all hurt. But may I bring to you words of comfort, hope and faith, that God will give you strength day by day, even moment by moment, and He will bring beauty out of the ashes Sarah. Your dear hearts are growing and even though its so painful, you are right, you will never be the same. He will take this pain and from it will spring forth something so precious that many will be comforted and healed.
    Sarah, may I introduce you to someone whom God has been using to bring such joy and peace back into my life?
    I have been following the lovely Ann at http://www.aholyexperience.com
    God has used her heart for Him to touch mine and so many others.
    I will continue to hold you and you family close in heart and am here for you if you need a listening ear and any prayer concerns.
    I’m so grateful He sent me to visit you today.

    All my heart,
    Deborah xoxoxo

  67. michelle says:

    Hi Sarah
    Its M formerly of Retrophenia as you probably wouldnt make the connection as we have changed to Little Rue (after our son).

    I havent checked in on you for a while and so when I went through past blog posts was shocked to hear your news.

    I dont know what to say other than offer a virtual BIG hug and cuppa.

    There are no rules at times like these…do what you need to do and if you run out of places to dettol then feel free to pop over to Blighty and clean mine :-)

    Thinking of you, M xxxx