Sweet Blogging ~ How to Blog For Real Girls Five Tips Why I Won’t Leave a Comment On your Blog

Thu 13th, Oct, 2011

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So, as you might have gathered, I read blogs quite a bit…I love real girl blogs the most, and of course a nautical coastal blog goes a long way with me too…

The other night I had a couple of cancellations for my kiddos sport, laundry was done, Mr BC was away on business, dinner was in the crock and that tub of mine was filling up with bubbles…

I had a semi-free early evening and a bit of time on my hands – enter white sofa and blog reading…

So I got to reading some new blogs and found some interesting things when attempting to comment on blogs and some I didn’t comment on because of various reasons…

Here are my tips for why you might be blogging your little coastal heart out but never get a single comment



1. You made me start typing strange letters that I can’t really see that well into a little box 

Yep that verification code thingy….ditch it...like ditch it really really quickly…I won’t even consider doing that typing in letters stuff unless I am adamant I want a comment on this blog… so often I got to visit blogs in my linky party and I have to write a verification thingy…. I am busy and sometimes this is just too much bother for me at the end of a long day…so think about whether you really want that in there…

2. You made me try to register for an account. 

Errm hello, so not only do you want me to surf on in to your blog, stay around awhile, like your content and hit that comment button, you want me to register?  Nup.

 3. There are so many links out of your blog I forget to comment. 

A couple of links on your blog post is a good idea, it makes your site easy to explore and helps people find other relevant snippets on your wonderful site…but four or five links out in the same post, I end up clicking all of them, getting over-saturated and heading right on out that blog door, closing down everything without leaving you a comment.

 4. You are Gonna Do What?

Oh yeah, so you want me to leave you a comment, but first you have to approve me and what I say?  

Hmmm, maybe I just won’t bother with that.

I know a lot of people, (I sure DO know) have comment moderation because of spam and blog troll issues, but mostly, I don’t think this is one of your better ideas, especially with a new and growing blog…but if you do have comment moderation on your site, ensure you are approving those comments as quickly as you can…I take time to write you a comment and I go back a day later or even half a day later and it’s not there, I get a pouty lip and won’t ever leave a little comment for you again.  Obviously my comments aren’t worth it :-)

5. You Don’t Let me Link to My Blog

The other day someone left me a comment asking me to come visit their site.  I did and I enjoyed it.

I wanted to let that blogger know that I appreciated her visit to my blog and wanted to say G’day and so I tried to comment, but I couldn’t because I could only comment if I was a member of certain blogging platforms…there wasn’t a spot for a self-hosted blog like mine where I could just add the url…I did leave the comment, but with an account that although it’s me, really it’s not the me me that I wanted them to get led back to and so it made me a bit miffed….on another occasion I probably just wouldn’t of bothered…

So have a little look at your comment section…are there things there that are putting people off….

And what makes you leave a comment on someone’s blog and what turns you off?

Let me know, I’d love a comment haha.

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127 Responses to “Sweet Blogging ~ How to Blog For Real Girls Five Tips Why I Won’t Leave a Comment On your Blog”

  1. Tiff says:

    I agree with all of those points Sarah. If there are too many steps before I can type a comment I’m out of there ;)

  2. Marnie says:

    Thanks for the tips Sarah. Not sure about how to do the link back thing though? If you’ve got a sec can you go to my blog and try to leave one, please? maybe it’s there and I don’t know? (Like the dirty dishes in the sink and my husband who wouldn’t know if they were there or not…haha)
    have a great night.
    x Marnie

  3. Great tips and I love your desk. What a lovely place to blog from.
    Kylie x

  4. rachael says:

    i would have to agree with you on all of the above reasons NOT to leave a comment, it takes so MUCH time to return comments and check out my list of blogs i follow as it is and i have 5 tabs of blogs going at once, once i hit ‘post comment’ if it doesn’t post i just close the window

    • sarah says:

      me too…shame really, but we are all busy….

      I realise that very much with my own blog….a lot of people read by don’t have the time to comment…and that’s fine too but if they do hit comment, it’s quite nice if they make it to the end ;-)

      hey, thanks for leaving a comment haha


  5. Leith says:

    Love your workspace Sarah. So calm and inviting.

  6. I completely agree especially with the verification thingy, this is a thing that blogger make you do, and i dont think you can turn it off. Also blogger make you have a google account to leave a comment. I dont really know how to get round this problem, other than hosting my blog myself. And for this you need time and knowledge.

    • samantha says:

      Hi there, I have a blogspot blog, and in my comment section you don’t have to have a google account to comment, there is a drop down list that gives you the option of a few different ways to leave comment. Check your posting options page.


    • Katrina says:

      Guerrilla Crafter…in blogger you just go into the omment section and you can turn off the verification and the word bit and save that and it should get rid of it all…..and just open the options up that anyone can leave a comment and it means people can link direct to their blog no matter what sort of account they hold

    • sarah says:

      I don’t know blogger too well but I am fairly sure you can turn it off

  7. samantha says:

    I follow all those tips above apart from the approve comment bit, I have that for older posts because I had an issue with a spammer, but even now I don’t have a huge pile of comments, I’m even giving stuff away and have not comments! I have a little sad face fight now…….

  8. Sarah- I agree completely with all your’ve said about *commenting*….

    Sometimes , with all the extra work that some blogs make you go through to leave your thoughts, by the time you’ve got there – the moments gone and you feel at a loss with what you actually spontaneously wanted to say!

    Great post- but I too am a little unsure about the linky back thingy??
    Any chance- if you have a moment- you could pop over and see if mines doing the right thing??

    Thanks- I’d really appretiate it….and Autumn is here in Ol’Blighty- I think of you whenever we hit a new season!

    Melissa x

  9. alison says:


    I stick with your blog because it’s fun, lots of laughs, informal, caring, interesting, helpful and inspiring. As I’ve said in a previous comment I have had a look around in blogland and there are some seriously weird ones. I don’t need weird! I’m too busy for weird!

    I have purchased your blogging course but have I had time to actually use it ??!! One day…

    Keep doing what you’re doing Sarah.


  10. Jane says:

    Amen to everything you say, Sarah. I turned word veri off ages ago and it’s made life so much simpler. Commenters also have the instant satisfaction of seeing their comments posted straightaway. It really helps with building a sense of community.

    If anyone is interested, I posted about it at http://www.lifeonplanetbaby.com/2011/02/tutorial-handling-comments-and-email.html – hopefully that might help some of you.

    J x

  11. Katrina says:

    Thank you for all those tips….have made most of the changes…not sure what you mean by the links thing (I am still learning all of this and to be honest mine isn’t any professionally looking set up like this beautiful blog you have created) I will give it all a go and see how things turn out…I didn’t realise people found the word verification thing annoying…..I’m always trying to learn – thanks for sharing

  12. Kira says:

    Yeah, that’s me, I need to learn more about blogging. But you can visit my web site anyways, just to see my watercolors!

  13. Agree with your points above. On a related topic, I like to reply to comments/return visits as much as I can but no-reply bloggers can make this a difficult task. Also, when checking someone’s profile I often find multiple links/blogs listed and can’t easily figure out which is their main site, sometimes giving up out of frustration/lack of time.

  14. andrea says:

    To be honest, some of us are still learning. I just learned how to turn of word verification last week and didn’t even know it was activated. Someone else just told me about ‘platforms’ this week, which I am still working on figuring out. Just started blogging this summer and am a newbie, but not a techy at heart. I don’t think people do these things on purpose, their computers are just on cruise control and they don’t realize the situation out there. andrea@ townandprairie

  15. Alice says:

    No 1 and no 2 – pet hates and unless I am really impressed I will not comment. The whole linky thing I just open them up in new tabs finish reading that post then comment and move on to the next tab etc..
    I really have to love the blog/post to comment and the fact that you Sarah often take the time to reply to some of us makes all that much more fun and real… So thanks!

  16. Katrina says:

    Ummmm I have to ask….Andrea mentioned platforms….ummmm what is that????

    • sarah says:

      A blogging platform is like typepad or blogger or wordpress where you host your blog at these ‘platforms’ as in it is not your own site.

      Hope that makes sense


  17. Jenny says:

    Good post, I agree with it all. I hope people or rather new bloggers come across it and take note. I usually open links in a new tab too so that I can finish ready the post I am on. Makes it less confusing! Have fun! ;-)

  18. SueBee says:

    I’m with you here!!

  19. The verification code is the worst of all for me.

    Susan and Bentley

  20. Dear sweet Sarah:

    Some days I can’t read all of your post or those of others. The verification codes don’t bother me as much as centered text. Many times I start reading but can’t continue because my eyes start jumping around. Centered text does not give my eyes a resting place to begin each line. Maybe it is age or my astigmatism or from being an old typesetter.

  21. Christy Zima says:

    LOL ! I love your REAL GIRL blog! You make me laugh and your blog is beautiful…….. :)

  22. I don’t know. I leave a comment anyway. If I really like what I’ve read and appreciate the effort the blog writer has gone to, I’ll do the word verification, sign up etc etc (as I’ve done here tonight) and leave the comment. I type pretty fast so it doesn’t matter to me. I like to spread the love and it gives the blog writer a real buzz receiving the comment. That’s why I do it. I want them to know I really like what they’ve written. Also, I very rarely go back to see if they’ve replied to my comment. Never enough hours in the day to do that (only if it’s delivered to my Inbox).

    Anne @ Domesblissity xx

  23. Candice says:

    I am still new at blogging but I did learn early on that the spammers have a field day and then I have to go in and toss them out every morning. I would rather not get excited over having 20 comments and then finding out they are selling something.

    I will give it a try for a week though, I trust the advice of someone who has done it longer than I :)

    I totally agree about all the links and I will run away from any blogs with wildly colored fancy font that makes my eyes pop out.

    That all being said … I sit here each day and read blogs and write my own … some days I pour my heart out into that blog .. I appreciate comments and I hate the feeling of having had all that to say and no one replied to it … I can go sit on the balcony and talk to the traffic, if I don’t want a comment. So I do love comments. I will make it as easy as I can for someone to leave one.

    I sit down here every morning and before I do anything else, I go through my blog list and read and comment.
    I expect if people have the time to write their own and want someone to leave a comment, the least I can do is reciprocate.

    besos, Candice

  24. Debi says:

    well, phooey. now you’ve gone and made me think. i used to have my comments wide open to anyone all the time whoever whenever whatever, but began to receive mean hurtful comments that had nothing to do with anything on my blog. always anonymous. so i disallowed anonymous, and when you do that on blogger, it makes you choose that platform thingy. blogger, unfortunately, doesn’t require people to leave their email address, so it’s easier to be mean over there.

    but you know what? tough titties to those mean people, i’m thinking. why not throw it wide open and see what happens, i’m thinking? it they show up again, that’s THEIR face they’re showing to the world. and i’m tougher than i used to be. lol!

    thank you for the little push.

  25. Meg says:

    this post is hilarious, even though not meant to be funny. i just finished gripping at my computer because of a comment issue before i came over to your blog. wholeheartedly agree.

  26. Shar Y says:

    While not a blogger YET, I read a heck of a lot of blogs. I look forward to it so much and I really love what you have to say about the comments. I agree with every one of them. One more thing that has bothered me are the blogs that only seem to want to hear from other bloggers. They might say something like this: please blog about this (subject), facebook or tweet. It is like they don’t want to hear from you if you don’t have a blog. I constantly share with my friends my favorite blogs and so that would add to traffic on a blog. Anyway, your blog is the greatest and so easy to comment on and navigate. Very professional! Thanks for it all…

  27. Giulia says:

    This is great. I agree that it can be annoying with all the verification steps, especially if they don’t work on a browser you are using and therefore you get ERROR. Some blogs I keep commenting because I am a loyal follower, others I would not bother.
    I also don’t leave comments if blog posts get super rambly and long because I never make it to the end to leave a comment.
    I also enjoy blogs where questions are answered and comments get a response. I don’t think every comment warrants a response, but when questions are asked it would be nice for the blogger to try and answer.
    As a blogger I leave a link back to a specific post only when the post asks about a certain project (i.e. have you painted furniture lately?)…I really don’t like the comments that say: Hi it’s me, here is my link to my blog, please follow me! I’ll check out different blogs and I’ll follow if I like it, not because someone asks me to.
    Talking about rambly…this is a rambly comment indeed.

  28. Candy says:

    I’m not a blogger myself and have no plans to become one….just don’t have the gift of writing and it being interesting. After visiting quite a few blog sites I have only two that I read everyday and, most of the time, comment on. Yours and one other that you actually recommended awhile back. Sooo, my point is, I didn’t realize how important commenting is to a blogger so will try and leave one everytime. Keep up the good work and know that you always inspire me in one way or another.

  29. claudia says:

    What makes me leave a comment are great pictures or a great tutorial with great pics, which I know takes forethought and care to accomplish. What makes me want to leave a blog (thus no comment is poorly taken photos. :)

  30. sue austin says:

    I am too lazy to blog, but I love reading blogs. I agree with all of your suggestions! Thanks for the fun.

  31. Ditto everything you said and one more:
    When someone comments back to you but on their own comments. Like if I say something on their comment and they say something back under my comment. That is clear as mud but I don’t go back and read their comments so I never knew they commented back. Sorry that is confusing.
    Love your blog.

  32. Sarah, thank you so much for those tips. I am a new blogger and didn’t know a thing about the ins and outs when I started. I still am not up to snuff. I am going to look into your tips. Thank you v. much for posting. Blessings, Wanda

  33. Elizabeth Fischbach says:

    Hi, there. This is the first time I have ever left a comment on any blog because of all the reasons you stated. I discovered the world of decorating blogs about 3 years ago, and I have been addicted ever since. I love all of the creative and sweet people making the world a more beautiful place and sharing their creativity and a little of their life with me.
    I am sure I am not the only person lurking out there who would love to tell you how much we love what you do. But if it is too much work (and it always is) I either can’t or don’t know how to leave a comment. I am not computer savvy and if I have to spend a half hour figuring out how to comment….forget about it.
    So thanks for speaking for those of us who are out there peeking in on you, I love what you do.

  34. Totally agree with you Sarah! that is one of the many reasons I come to your blog. I may not always comment, but at least I know when I do I don’t have to go through an act of Congress for you to see it. Have a great day and thanks for writing about something that has been bugging me for good while now.

  35. tami says:

    Hi Sarah, what makes me leave comments are a few things. Number one, first and foremost is that I have the “urge” meaning it’s just like in a conversation, someone says something interesting so I simply reply. Like now with your post, you said it, I hate the word verification, I’ve said it before many times, no one listens, partly because not many read my blog, so hopefully, they’ll get it. There was even a little badge you could put up in your blog a nice lady made it up saying “no word verification” or something like that.
    Two, someone was kind enough to leave a comment on mine, so I try, often fail, but do try to reciprocate.
    Three, I do comment in support of my own blog (people won’t say this ever but they do it too)
    When you start a little blog, it’s pretty much going nowhere if you don’t move about yourself, and get your name out there.
    In all honesty, I have also posted on blogs I just love and adore, and never ever ever had the hostess of that blog comment on mine.
    There are some bloggers who are just “too big”, and don’t bother with blogs like mine. Often it feels a little like high school and you’re divided into the popular and unpopular. However I do not, never have allowed “people” of any kind to “define” me.
    That being said, this post you just made, is awesome, it’s why I’m posting. I read your blog all the time, most every time you post, and cannot reply to each post, but do try on yours Sarah, to reply when the urge strikes me, and also when I am utterly inspired.

  36. Hi Sarah, Wanda again. Would do me a huge favor and stop at my sight and let me know if there is an issue? I have changed a few settings but not sure if I have it all right and far as linking back.

  37. Patricia Ann says:

    So glad you posted this. I agree with everything you wrote. I have a newbie question maybe you know why it happens…on some blogs you have a drop down menu to pick your profile to leave your comment, but google will not accept a google profile?? I find that so frustrating. I think if more people would change their comment form placement to “Full Page” in their settings or do something like what you have……(how did you do yours, btw?) it would help.

  38. Debbie says:

    As I was reading your post, I found myself nodding in agreement! However, then I read about too many links. Ouch, you stepped on my toes but I’m so glad you did. I’m always interested in learning new things and you taught me something Sarah. I’ll cut down on the outbound links in each post. I guess I just didn’t think they might get lost; good point.


  39. Loribeth says:

    I agree with pretty much everything you said, although the word verification doesn’t bother me. I used to follow your blog and leave comments every once in a while. I stopped when you started making me click on a link to read the entire blog post. I read blogs in Google’s reader, and if I have to click on something to read the entire post, I’m done. I don’t go any further. I subscribe to 139 blogs, I just don’t have time to click to read an entire posts… Yours isn’t the only blog I’ve stopped following because of this… I’m sorry too, because I really enjoyed your blog. But I only click on a blog post if I’m going to comment, not to read them.

    • sarah says:

      hey sorry you have to click read more Loribeth, at least you managed it this time :-)

      I missed you at my blog xx

  40. Stephanie says:

    The number one reason I don’t comment on someones blog is if they don’t come back and comment on mine. As a matter of fact, when I spend all day stumbling around the blogging sites, I write a comment and very rarely come back, unless we start a conversation over a various different blog posts.

  41. Kathy says:

    Sarah, those were great tips. I try to leave a comment on every post I read. It’s kinda like spending at least a quarter at a yard sale just because of the effort the sellers put into it ♥ Love YOUR blog!

  42. Chy says:

    Thank you! I’m brand new to blogging, have only one post up so far (more coming today) and really appreciate your tips. I’ve been following a number of blogs for several years and often leave comments but do find the mixed up letters thingy annoying and the “send it and I’ll approve it if I like it” thing as well. I’m going to leave mine wide open and see what happens.


  43. sibylle says:

    i agree, though if you comment on my blog for the first time, I have to approve it. But after that you good to go. That’s my way of dealing with spam.;-)

  44. Ok, you’ve convinced me to take two things off of my blog. You’re the bestest.

  45. Marie says:

    Darn, Sarah – you’ve got me thinking again LOL!! Okay, back to check out my comment section. I’m having a horrible time with Spam since moving to WordPress.

  46. Jen says:

    Nicely put.

    What do you think of bloggers who respond to comments in their own comment box? I don’t need a blogger to respond to every comment I make, but if they do, I’d like to know it and I rarely go back to a post once I’ve read it. The exception is if I’ve asked a question (like this one) that is generally applicable to other readers, if there is a conversation (which seems to be happening here) in the comment section.

    I love your desk, chair, flowers. Just perfect.

    p.s. just saw the Notify me box below. Haven’t noticed that feature before. I’ll check it out.

  47. Sarah says:

    Hm, I think the only commenting crime I commit is the last one, the website one. I blog off of blogspot and idk how to add the name, email, and website catagories like yours has. If you have any insight on how to change that please let me know! :)

  48. Barefoot Liz says:

    I’m going to have to check my blog. I can’t remember if I have that verification thingy on or moderation of comments. Off I go to figure it all out.

  49. Barefoot Liz says:

    Ok, I think my blog is fine. Try leaving a comment there and we’ll find out. :-D

  50. amy says:

    ditto, ditto, DITTO to all the points you raised. i actually pondered positioning a note under by name after i comment that gently leads the blogger to a “newbie blogger tips” post…perhaps yours!! not sure how well that would be received by many so i’ve held back!

    keep the honesty comin’….so refreshing!


  51. amy says:

    oops! should read “under MY name”…

    • Amy says:

      I agree! LIKE! You are so smart! :) I especially despise the typing the code that I can’t really read. It makes me wonder what’s wrong with me!

  52. Julie says:

    Glad to hear I’m not the only one who is driven crazy by those codes. Half the time I don’t even get them right…! :)

  53. Susan says:

    Thanks for the hints – I had to double check my blog to see if I could comment by leaving a name and a URL – yes, I’m good to go there, and I don’t have any verification steps.

    But, I will admit that sometimes I put in more than a couple of links – I will try not to do that any more!

    Please feel free to visit my blog (and leave a comment!) – Thanks also for your wonderful blogging hints, and decorating ideas – yours is one of my favorite blogs!!!

  54. I would SOOOO love to see everyone to add their email address (instead of ‘no reply’) so that I can reply to EVERYONE who leaves a comment on my blog. It’s frustrating to have to actually have to take extra time to go to their blog to leave a Thank You. I try to visit everyone’s blog who does leave me a comment, but by the time I get there to leave a reply to their comment on my blog….I’ve forgotten what comment they left! Agh!!!! :)

    xoxo laurie

    • sarah says:

      I used to email everyone back, but that got very very time consuming and my family had to come first…now I answer on here and hope that my readers know I love them and love comments xo

  55. Anonymous says:

    The music on some blogs drives me up the wall. Then I have to hurriedly scroll up and down to find the ‘music maker’ and either pause it or mute it. But if I click on a link on their page, then come back to their blog, I have to do it all over again. BIG aggravation!

    • sarah says:

      me too!

      there are a very few blogs where I am a follower that have music, in fact I think it is too and yes I too am scrambling down to the bottom to turn off or quickly turning down my speakers x

      • Just did that. I think the music is still going. I just turned the speaker down. Sarah, I thought this was a great post. I’ve got to check my blog out now to see if you’d comment on mine!

  56. Leslie Anne says:

    Sorry, didn’t mean to post that comment anonymously! Was in a hurry to get my thoughts down before I forgot what I was going to say!

  57. COTTAG3 says:

    Great tips! I follow all of them except comment moderation. I do have that because of some of the crazy spam comments. However, I read them all and have them posted the same day, often within minutes or the hour. I love comments so I can’t imagine waiting days to read them and “approve” them. With Blogger, it’s also much easier to keep up with comments and reply to them if they are moderated, meaning they come to your email inbox. I found without doing that, comments were being posted and I couldn’t keep up with them. I was missing some and it was difficult to reply which I think is an important thing to do especially when growing a new blog. Feel free to stop by mine and if you do, let me know if mine has any of that crazy stuff on it. I hope it works like I think it does :)

    • sarah says:

      interested to hear how you do it in blogger….

      I have askimet for the spam and that works really well…thousands and thousands of spam comments in there…and some aren’t so nice lol

  58. Marilyn says:

    Good post, I so agree! Fairly New to Blogging, do you mean on the linking out of your post the linky parties #3 ? As far as leaving comments, I will if I really like something, because I know how I enjoy getting comments! What turns me off is the difficulty on some blogs who do not have enough ways to leave the comment. your #5. Thanks

    • sarah says:

      not the linky parties, I mean the links either to other sites or inbound links…if there are too many I don’t go back to the original one and comment x

  59. Rasha says:

    I liked the code thingie, you are totaly right.
    SO if I dont have all those rules on my blog whould you do me the honor and visit my blog :)))
    I’ll be waiting for your comment hehehhe

    Rasha @ mychampagnetaste

  60. Tricia says:

    I never thought of checking my settings on the comment section. I will defintely go check it out now. Thanks for this post!

  61. Bring Pretty back says:

    Sarah, I LOVED THIS! And agree with every single word!!!!
    Have a pretty day!

  62. Wow!!!!! This was so perfectly said, if that even makes sense!!!!! Ha, ha!!!!!! You are so right is what I am saying!!!!!!!!! Loved this post!!!!!!!!!

  63. Anonymous says:

    I’m not a blogger but I do follow some blogs and like to leave comments. I still don’t know what I’m doing as far as leaving comments. Although I’ve signed up to follow the blogs it won’t let me verify, sooooo I come up as Anonymous. Frustrating, and annoying!!!! The other day I was asked for my mobile number. When I didn’t provide it, I wasn’t able to leave a comment. Sorry, that was my rant…..
    Have a good weekend. jojo3b :)

  64. Beth says:

    Hi Sarah,
    I read this post yesterday and didn’t have time to comment so have come back again. I enjoyed reading the comments as much as the post, so I’m glad I did. On my blog I leave my comments section as open and easy as I think I can for people, it’s not a ‘big’ blog and has been going for about a year and I have only ever received one dodgy one that I deleted once I saw it.
    What I do get a little frustrated about is the comments that ask me something and then when I go to reply they have a ‘norelpy’ email address and/or no blog so I’m stuck!
    Thanks for this post ,
    Have a good weekend.

  65. I so agree with everything that you wrote in this post. Love it, and I wish that I knew how to link to it, so I could get even more people to stop using word verification. We need to spread the word….not the verification.

    I have a Word Verification Free Blog badge on my blog, found it through another blogger, and I sincerely hate word verification. Ask any of the bloggers that I comment on…LOL.

    Jen @ Muddy Boot Dreams

  66. thanks, sarah. i am growing but have a lot to learn. i admire your confidence in what you do and your interest in helping others.


  67. I agree with all your wrote! I blog with blogger and I do not moderate or use word verify and I rarely get spam. They do a good job at filtering it so people should not be fearful of getting spam. And all my comments go to my email so I can respond easily that way. But not if they have the dreaded “noreply”. Some don’t have their profile open either!

    I do have problems when I try to search for something within a blog. Sometimes they don’t date their posts or sometimes it’s no labels. I do need to work on better labels or tags myself. I know they can be helpful if used well.

  68. gretchen says:

    the only thing you left out is MUSIC on a blog… nothing makes me click off a page quicker than some random music starting up if i’ve forgotten to shut down my speakers after listening to something i actually wanted to hear. besides that, it makes the page load slower…another reason to just leave it off, ok? no music. thank you very much.

  69. Jack Scott says:

    Totally agree with everything accept the moderation point. I get masses of spam on my blog which has to be controlled and the odd poisonous comment from the nutters out there that I won’t allow to be published. However, I moderate as quickly as possible.

  70. Great post! I totally agree!
    One small (NOT) thing that I get really annoyed about is blogs with music starting playing without me knowing. It makes me jump in my seat every time. I can’t understand why the blogger don’t grasp that every reader have different taste in music? I tend to not visit that blog again. Sad because the blog itself may be very nice.

    Wishing you a wonderful Friday!

    Anette Willemine

  71. Hi,

    Thank you for this pot. Very helpful!

  72. fawn says:

    I’m a voracious blog reader. It comforts me to know that famous bloggers take time to read not-so-famous bloggers’ sites. :) One thing that bugs me is when bloggers bribe readers into voting for them in competitions.

  73. Deborah says:

    Great commentary! Yes, I am a blogger (www.alamodeus.net), but I am also an avid blog reader. So, I agree that commenting on posts should be as effortless as possible to encourage interaction. I have to say, however, that I have two bigger pet peeves: one is a blog with music. For the most part, the music selection is fine, but I will visit a music site when I’m in the mood for a lovely (non repetitive) tune. (By the way, I often have my own music background playing, so I don’t need to hear yours.) Second: be mindful of your image sizes when building your posts. Too low resolution is less that professional and never flattering to your subject matter. Too high resolution or sizing makes loading your post slow … signaling to me that it’s time to move on to another blog.

  74. jan says:

    Love your thinking Sarah..yay..I wondered if I was either lazy or stupid, both of which I am not,
    when it came to leaving a quick encouraging comment on some blogs.
    ..and the “oversatuaration ‘comment is right on too….real people with real lives
    sharing real stuff has a simplistic beauty that is quickly destroyed by pushy marketing
    and overkill advertising…thanks for the thoughts

  75. Dusty says:

    I just recently started following your blog. And this was too a problem with my own blog. A little feed back from some people and they were like, “huh?” what am i supposed to do. I am not sure I have it correctly having a 3 month old blog, but I changed my settings. But I like your set up here “Speak Your Mind”. It’s a one stop shop. Is there somewhere I can get your simple comment layout? Thanks!

  76. Nicolette says:

    I have a private blog, but I do have comments go through moderation. I only post about once/twice a week, and when I do I check my comments. (So! I guess I should be checking more often, I don’t want people to think I don’t appreciate their comments, I soooo do!) I get a TON of spam – mostly attempts at marketing, so I think the moderation is important for my blog. It also forces me to go through each comment individually and gives me a chance to respond right then.

  77. Crystal says:

    My pet peeve is a ton of stuff in a blog sidebar. There have been times I was all set to follow someone, but couldn’t even find their GFC widget!

  78. Lindsay says:

    I understand your frustration about the code thingy. But, unfortunately in todays world websites need real protection against robots and spammers. Without a captcha verification, an automated script can create thousands of accounts and take advantage of your site. I know this ’cause my husband is a computer programmer and obsessed with security.

    By the way, I love your site. I have been reading it for years. I’m British also, transplanted to Oregon, US. and dream of life by the sea!

  79. B says:

    Hey Sarah,
    I agree 1,000 percent with you on this, I am usually looking for ideas and fun things to find and read, I do not usually have time to register…so I move on… Thanks for pointing these things out Awesome out pouring. ;0)

  80. Charmaine says:

    Hi Sarah,

    Yes it is very annoying when people ask you to comment, enter a competition, or you just want to wish them well with their endeavours/ recent loss etc……….and it says – type in your account?? so I presume this means if you don’t have your own blog etc… your aren’t worth leaving a comment…pfft….frustrating! Anyways, keep up the good work – and a great topic luv!!

  81. I am so glad I found your blog and thus, this post. I am very new to blogging. I learned a lot from reading this. Thank you Sarah


  82. Hmmm as a fairly new blogger, (since April) I have so many questions to ask! Sometimes I find blogger so difficult to use. I also find it tricky to comment on other peoples blogs (like I have to always sign back in to my own blog, when I actually was signed in, whilst trying to comment) I just went to check my comment settings. I think I have set them at the easiest possible way. How is that your blog is so refreshingly easy to comment on? Is it because it is not through blogger? Thanks whatever it is!

    Have a grand day and keep up the great work.


  83. Gina says:

    I love visiting blogs and find with the coupon blogs I visit are just as easy to comment on as yours,but with the exception of one other blogger I cannot comment on anyone else’s blog in the whole diy/craft/sewing/home blogging world as they all want your url or whatever-I don’t even know what that is or how to get one or if I even want one. Very frustrating! Thanks for making yours so user freindly which I didn’t realize it was until this post because I assumed it was just as difficult as all the other ones out there.

  84. Rukmini says:

    Dude, you’ve been like one of my favs and now I know why. So very true. Not that my posts are exceptional but I do moderate comments as soon as I get it – Emails on your phone is a good thing and so is reciprocation.

    Such a good read Sarah.

  85. Lisa says:

    Oh so true! I’ve had all those same thoughts many times!

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  88. Juliette says:

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